How Many of These 10 Ingredients Are You Adding to Crush Your Goals?
These 10 disciplines are easy to do, but they are also easy not to do. It all comes down to choice. We need to take responsibility for our own dreams and goals because unless we take the necessary action, we’ll never see the results.
Hey winner! Welcome to Red Hot Mindset. I’m glad you’re here. My mission is to help you step into the fire of refinement so you can come out stronger and crush your goals. I do this by helping you overcome any mental barriers standing in the way of achievement, and I share messages about mindset, goal setting, and simplifying your life. Today I want to help set you up for success. I know you’ve probably decided on a goal for the year, and you have that dream you’ve always wanted to go after, but maybe you haven’t done much about it yet.
We’re halfway through the year.
Can you believe that? I want to know, where are you at with your goals? If you’re not at least halfway, then maybe you need to take some time to reassess and adjust. You may need to shift the goal itself or the timeframe or some habits. Maybe you need to assess if your habits are catering to your goals or if there’s something you may need to add, refine, or eliminate altogether.
These 10 disciplines we are going to talk about today are the key ingredients to achieving your goal. If you skip any of them, it’s like leaving the baking powder out of the cookie recipe… ummmm… not good. Using the wrong ingredients can make for a dangerous combo.
I remember one time when I was a kid, I was all excited to make chocolate chip cookies on my own, and I got all the ingredients out, mixed them myself, and baked them! I was so proud of myself, but my cookies didn’t turn out! They looked like a globby mess, and I didn’t know why!
My aunt was over at the time, and she asked me what I put into them. I showed her and my mom the ingredients I used and how much, fully expecting them to have no idea why they didn’t turn out right, and they both started to laugh! Seriously, I followed the recipe! What was so funny?
It turns out that I mixed up the ratio of flour to sugar. I used way more sugar and less flour, and it turned into a recipe for disaster. When I remade the cookies with the right amounts of each ingredient, they turned out exactly how I had planned for them to the first time!
So why is this important? Why does it matter? Because it’s the same with our goals.
There is a structured framework we can follow to see our goals through. If we skip a step or two because they make us feel uncomfortable, or we’re afraid, or we just don’t want to do them, then we may eventually get to the finish line, but it’s going to take us that much longer and probably be that much more frustrating.
Just like you need all the ingredients listed in a recipe to make a delicious cookie, you need all the ingredients we talk about today to make your dreams come true. You might be able to make things happen without one or two or even five of the disciplines, but it will absolutely take longer and be more complicated, and here’s the kicker. The longer it takes to see the results, the easier it is to quit before they show up. These 10 disciplines are the shortcut! Why not bake a delicious cookie today by following the recipe to success?
Let’s get into them.
ONE: Do you have a specific goal or dream written down? Not just in your head … but is it written down and in front of you every day? Can you see it?
Here are some goals I hear all the time:
- I want to lose weight.
- I want to run my first marathon.
- I want to eat healthier.
- I want to be more present for my kids.
- I want more time for myself.
- I want a clean and less cluttered house.
All of these goals are great! But they’re not specific enough, and they lack any real call to action.
How much weight do you want to lose? When do you want to hit that goal weight? What specific marathon will you run as your first? What does eating healthier mean to you? Adding in three cups of veggies a day? Eliminating all sweets or dyes? Why aren’t you present right now for your kids? What’s standing in your way? What does being present mean to you? Do you want a solid hour, 2 hours, or 3 hours a day? Does it mean setting aside your phone for a certain amount of time?
These are just a few questions you can ask yourself as you define your goal. Having a clear-cut goal written down will help provide you with direction and clarity as you work on a plan to achieve that goal.
If you need help turning your goal into a specific and clear-cut goal, check out my GOAL MISSION STATEMENT WORKSHOP. It will help guide you through the process of creating a goal that matters to you.
TWO: Do you have a clear, meaningful WHY? You need something motivating to drive you, something that will actually get you excited to get out of bed every day, something that keeps you awake at night because you’re too excited to sleep! What is your biggest motivator really?
Let’s go back to some of the goals I talked about in the first ingredient. Why do you want to lose 10 pounds? What will that do for you? Maybe you’ll be able to come off some medications, or you’ll feel more energetic throughout the day.
Why do you want to run your first marathon?
Maybe it’s because it will help you lose the 10 pounds you want. Or maybe it’s so you can be an example for your kids. Maybe you used to be a hard-core athlete and you want to bring some competition back to your life.
Why do you want to be present for your kids?
Are there certain things you want to teach them before they leave home? Do you want to show them how to play alongside working hard? Do you want to create memories you all can cherish?
Why do you want a clean and less cluttered house?
Are you stressed out all the time and think it could bring some peace to the home? Do you want time to do other things and not have to be weighed down by the daily mess?
Your why matters. If you don’t have a good, specific WHY that will drive you, you’ll eventually let up on the gas and put the car in park.
THREE: Do you have a visual of your goal? Do you put pictures that symbolize your dream in front of you so they can be a focus in your daily life? The more you see them, the more apt you are to put the work in to go after them. Keep them top of mind!
When I was working toward my goal of qualifying for the Boston Marathon, I did this. I created a posterboard to look at during my training. It had the race I was going to use to qualify (Grandma’s Marathon 2015). It had my goal time written on it (3 hours and 30 minutes). I put a picture of the Boston symbol, the race course, and the finish line on it. Then I posted it near the garage door so every time I left the house I would see it.
When we create a picture for our goals, we physically put our goal in front of us so we can see it every day.
Many people bypass this step because it seems too wufoo for them, and they are right if that’s all they do. I’m not a proponent of manifesting your dreams. We need to physically see our goal in front of us, but it won’t come to fruition without putting the work in to get us there. Seeing it in front of us keeps it top of mind and helps us to align our habits and actions with our goal.
Do you know that I crossed the Grandma’s Marathon finish line exactly at 3 hours and 30 minutes? I believe it’s because I literally saw that time every day, and because I saw it, I put in the necessary work to achieve that time.
FOUR: Do you have promises you can turn to when you need them? The more rooted you are in who you are in Christ, the more confident you will be to take the action that will drive you to your goal! Knowing that it’s his ability that makes us capable is powerful!
What are these promises? They’re simply truths to offset the negative that tries to creep in multiple times a day. Getting to the root of the negative thoughts is important because you can’t just think them out of existence. The only real way to overcome a negative thought is to speak a positive thought out loud.
We can try it.
What are you thinking right now? I want you to say out loud, “I am a winner!” Did you do it? What were you thinking when you said those words? My guess is you were thinking about how you are a winner. When we say things out loud, we can’t think of something else at the same time. Stop the negative thought at its root, or it will continue to grow.
I prefer to find God’s promises and root them in my heart. Reading the Word is one of the best ways to find out who you are in Christ. He never said life would be easy, but He has promised to never leave us and to do a work in us if we are willing.
I created a page of AFFIRMATIONS FOR PEACE that will help you when your fears and anxieties creep in and help you to put your trust in God. These are scripture based and powerful. It will give you an idea of how to create some for yourself as well.
FIVE: Do you have a plan in place to work toward your goal? A plan is definitely a key ingredient. A plan provides direction and a starting ground. When you have a plan you have something to reflect on and make tweaks and adjustments to.
A dream is just a wish without a plan and action backing it. Part of the plan is taking time to assess and make changes if necessary. So do you have a plan attached to your goal? Is it working for you? Are you only working toward that larger goal, or have you broken it up into smaller stepping-stones along the way?
It’s important to reflect on your plan weekly or at least periodically.
What’s working, what’s not working? Are you getting distracted by anything going on in your life right now? What life circumstances may be playing a role? Do you need to readjust your timeline or expectations?
A game plan gives you direction and clarity as you take action on your goal.
Not having a plan is like driving to a destination without a map. It’s important to map out the best route that will get you there efficiently. The plan can, and probably will, change along the way, but it is a vital piece of the puzzle.
When you’re mapping your plan, it’s important to include smaller, stepping-stone goals along the course. These are checkpoints that will help you see if what you’re doing is working, and it will help you assess the results you are getting based on the action you are taking. When you map out your larger goal or dream into smaller steps, you’ll find it’s easier and more motivating to work toward because you’ll have small wins along the way. Every win will be a celebration toward that bigger goal.
SIX: Are you on a personal growth journey? If you aren’t willing to grow yourself, you’ll never leave the place you’re at. Do you take the time to read or listen to success audios, or take courses to continue your education?
Personal growth means we are learning and growing all the time. It can happen intentionally and really unexpectedly, but intentional learning is key.
Finding a love for learning is something I work hard on with my boys in our homeschool because I know if I can teach them to love to learn, then they can learn anything, and they’ll be set up more for success. If I teach them how to learn, and if they learn to love learning, they will take ownership and responsibility of it, and it will play a lead role in their future endeavors.
It’s not as hard as we think it is to find time in our day for personal development.
It’s about prioritizing the time. How much time do you spend listening to music on your commute to work or kid’s activities? How many hours do you spend in the evening watching TV? What if you just took a small chunk of that time and put it to good use? How about listening to a podcast on your way to work? Maybe turn the TV off 15 minutes early and read a book before bed. Take 5 minutes in the morning to journal your thoughts.
Everybody has the time to learn, but not everyone chooses to use it in that way. Successful people make use of the time they’re given and prioritize their learning above outside entertainment. We’re not talking hours a day. We’re talking small, meaningful habits created over time that make the difference.
Do you need a place to start?
A good personal development book to read? I’ll leave a link to three of the most influential books that changed my life as well as the three books that helped me dream again. If you don’t know where to start, start there.
SEVEN: Do you have a positive association to grow in? Who are you surrounding yourself with? Do they uplift you, support you, and encourage you? Are they growing themselves and excited about life? Do you feel better about yourself after you leave them than when you arrived?
These are some questions you want to ask yourself about the association you currently surround yourself with. Are you intentionally seeking out positive, supportive friends who are not only excited about you and your dreams, but they also have their own passions they are in pursuit of that you can be an encouragement to them as well.
Leadership coach John Maxwell says we are in life similar to the five people we spend the most time with. If that’s the case, then those five people need to be selected carefully.
If you are interested in finding a community where you feel safe sharing your goals, your failures, and your wins, come check out the Red Hot Winners Community on Facebook.
It is a safe place for you to try, fail, adjust, and win.
We have created a positive atmosphere where you can grow and find that support you may be looking for. Every week we set our intentions of what we want to focus on or finish, and at the end of the week we share one thing we’re proud of and celebrate our wins.
If you want to run your race, run your business, or run your life better, this is the right group for you. You can join by going to www.facebook.com/groups/redhotwinners.
You are a red hot winner because I know you have the fire inside of you to make your dreams come true! So join us in the community as you go after your biggest goals!
EIGHT: Do you have an accountability partner? Who do you hold yourself accountable to? If you don’t have someone to answer to, you’ll likely quit on yourself or never start.
Without an accountability partner, you’ll be more apt to cave to the excuses rather than overcoming the circumstances that surround you. Why? An accountability partner supports you differently because you now have something to strive for. You don’t want to let her down.
When you have someone to hold you accountable for the goals you have, it creates more of a drive in your mind to get it done.
There’s something on the line, and it’s called your ego. If you don’t get done what you said you were going to do, you’re not only letting yourself down, you’re now letting your accountability partner down too. It’s way easier to work toward something when it’s outside yourself, and once you have someone else in the picture, now you have that outside source to keep motivated.
An accountability partner will cheer you on and support you but also be the person to help kick you in gear when you need it. She is now invested in your success in some ways, and you are invested in hers. When we go after our goals with someone else, it becomes a beautiful thing.
NINE: Do you have a coach? A coach can speak into your life unlike anyone else. She can provide the tough love that we need to get going and keep going until we get the job done.
A coach sees things about you that you can’t see and can guide you through the process because most likely she’s been through it in some capacity. She understands how to overcome the mental blocks and keep you on track as you work toward your goals.
What’s the difference between an accountability partner and a coach, and do you need both in your life?
An accountability partner is more of a cheerleader and supporter who is also doing her own work toward her own goals. A coach, on the other hand, has already essentially been there, done that, and now is guiding you through doing it yourself.
An accountability partner will be more of a friend, whereas a coach will give you the tough love you need when you need it. Think of an accountability partner like a teammate who’s going in a similar direction and wants to win just as much as you do, but the coach has the road map and guidance to help you do that.
Did you know that even a coach needs a coach?
We all have places within us that we can’t quite see. When we hire a coach to help us, she can draw out those insecurities or mental blocks and help us build a confidence and boldness to get past those walls and push through to our goals. When I was working for my second Boston qualifying time, I hired a run coach.
I am a run coach, and I’ve helped multiple women either learn to run, run their first race, or qualify for the Boston Marathon. Many would wonder why I needed a coach if I were one already, but we never work as hard for ourselves without strings attached. By investing in a coach, I knew I’d push myself harder than I would alone, and I also knew that he would have a strategy to get me where I wanted to go. In races prior, I continued to hit new personal records, but after I qualified for the Boston Marathon the first time, I didn’t think I had much more speed in me than what I put out on race day. Boy, was I wrong! My coach helped me smash my PR by 12 minutes!!
Afterward, we talked about how the race went, and he was already talking about shaving another 8 minutes off my best time and told me he hadn’t trained me as hard as he could have because I was new to working with him, so we were both feeling the other out and finding out what I was capable of. You better believe that when I go for that next PR, I’m going to be hiring a coach to help me do that.
Honestly, once I hit some of my own dreams and goals, I realized I had a passion to help other women do the same thing.
For a season of motherhood, I felt like I was drowning in diapers and feedings and running around to all my kids’ activities that I put my dreams on the shelf and called it self-sacrifice in the name of motherhood. What I came to realize is that my kids actually look to me to be their example of how to live, and I didn’t want them growing up to believe that once they become adults or dad, their dreams no longer mattered. That’s no life for any of us to live.
Now I’m passionate to help other women like I was early in motherhood to help them see they can be good moms and still be passionate about their own dreams and find purpose and meaning in them. If you are interested in learning more about my coaching program or the one-on-one coaching I offer, head to www.redhotmindset.com/contact, and you’ll find all the information there. Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions about coaching, and we can see if it could be the right fit for you.
If you are interested in coaching, accountability, and community, then the Red Hot Accountability coaching group might be right for you. I only open it up every three months, and the next group launches on July 20.
With accountability and a simple plan come actions and results. At the end of the three months, you will be able to naturally evaluate each week and plan out your own stepping-stone actions in regard to your larger goal. This program is meant to help you break the barriers of goal setting and change your mindset on your ability to accomplish your goal within the framework we will walk through together. We marry accountability with mindset, and it’s the perfect combo!
TEN: Are you bold about your goals? Do you share your goals? Do you speak them out loud? Are you willing to let others know what you’re doing?
There’s no shame in dreaming and going after those dreams. Don’t be afraid of others and what they think. The only approval you need is your own! Go after that goal with all of your heart and shout it from the mountaintops! Once you speak it out loud and others hear it, it’s harder to give up on yourself because now you have something to prove.
Here’s the other thing … you’ll become an excuse remover for others, and whether they are sharing or not, they are watching what you do, and you may ultimately motivate them to dream again and go after their own goals. When one person is willing to step out of her comfort zone and follow a calling on her heart, others will follow.
If you need a bit of motivation and some practical tips to start, then Mind Over Marathon: Overcoming Mental Barriers in the Race of Life might be the book for you! This book is not solely for runners. It’s for anyone who either has a dream or wants to find their dream and take it from the starting line to the finish. I use examples from my running experience and relate them to success principles that you can apply to any area of your life. At the end of each chapter, you’ll find thought-provoking questions, a quick faith devotional, and a practical application that you can implement immediately. If these 10 ingredients for crushing your goals are resonating with you, we go quite a bit deeper into each within the book!
These 10 disciplines are easy to do, but they are also easy not to do. It all comes down to choice. We need to take responsibility for our own dreams and goals because unless we take the necessary action, we’ll never see the results. These ten disciplines are the driving force to accomplish your 2020 vision and beyond. Now I ask you, how many of these 10 things are you doing toward your dream?
“You only have control over three things in your life: the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take. How you use these three things determines everything you experience.” — Jack Canfield, author
These 10 disciplines make up the formula for success in goal setting! How many of these things can you check off the list? How many are you doing right now? Which ones do you need to add? Get honest with yourself and figure out how to incorporate the disciplines in your life that you are not currently doing. This is the recipe for success. It’s the recipe for your dreams coming true!
Now, it’s not a magical potion that if you do these things your dream will automatically happen.
These are helpful for you to keep your goals in the forefront of your mind, but if you’re not DOING anything about them, then these ingredients will be null. We still have to bake them. The work is what will get you there, these ingredients just make the journey a bit more guided.
I’ve created a PDF checklist that you can download to use as a reminder for the 10 most important things that create momentum in your life as you work toward achieving your dreams.
Choose one you aren’t doing, and start there.
Don’t think you have to add all the ingredients at once. Most recipes call for you to mix the dry ingredients together first, then the liquid, and then combine them. It’s a step-by-step process, and goal setting isn’t any different. The simpler you keep it, the more likely you’ll stick to it.
I want you to use these ingredients to fuel you and drive you closer to your goals.
Dream huge, and, remember, you are a winner. Just run YOUR race! I believe in you!
Links Mentioned in Episode
- Goal Mission Statement Workshop: https://redhotmindset.newzenler.com/f/goals-mission-statement-workshop
- Affirmations for Peace: https://redhotmindset.newzenler.com/f/affirmations-for-peace
- Red Hot Winners Community on FB: www.facebook.com/groups/redhotwinners
- One-on-One & Group Coaching Options: www.redhotmindset.com/contact/
- Mind Over Marathon Book: http://www.redhotmindset.com/mindovermarathon/
- 10 Ingredients Checklist: https://redhotmindset.newzenler.com/f/10-disciplines-checklist
- Three Books That Helped Me Dream Again: http://www.redhotmindset.com/3-books-that-helped-me-dream-again/
- Life-Changing Books // 3 Most Influential Books in My Life: http://www.redhotmindset.com/life-changing-books/
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